Day 87, FREE to be YOUng: Journaling, The Third Chakra, Today’s Emotional Life

Day 87, FREE to be YOUng: Journaling, The Third Chakra, Today’s Emotional Life

Because I had been studying many different types of therapies and engaging in them, this was not the most important journal entry for me. For 10 or more years, I had been doing this step in my head or taken the emotion to a therapy group as a topic to resolve.  Later the magnificent tool of The 9 Steps of Mastering Emotions created by Paul Solomon in late1976 became very important for me for ending serious repeated lessons. Later as a past life therapist, I learned to call those repetitious lessons “Soul Lessons”.

Now, this third journal entry is simply a log for emotions felt during the day. Emotions simply can be logged under four basics: fear, love, anger and pain.

“Write down the strongest emotions you felt today. Include both positive and negative emotions. Know they will either be expressions of the free child or the hurt child portion of your being-ness.  

Did the emotion empower you?  If so, it is an income. Mark it with a +.

Did the emotion deplete you?  If so, it is an expense. Mark is with a -.”

From the ILC Workbook.

You might also note if you felt the emotion immediately or if it was delayed. Ideally we want to be aware of feeling emotions in the moment.  

Generally females have many words for the nuances of emotional experiences. Through the years of doing couple therapy I discovered female partners were more comfortable when their male partners related more than fear, love, anger and pain.  In that case, for the males in the family, I suggested that there be a hand made poster in the kitchen where the nuanced emotions could be listed.  Families who did this reported having more comfort in discussing emotions.

Managing emotions is a lengthy process and while I taught ILC in classes, I would present this journal posting after teaching the 9 Steps of Mastering Emotions. That technique hasn’t been shared yet in this blog and may or may not be posted later in the year.

I am posting the definitions of emotions. It might take a few minutes, a few days, a few months to wrap your head around the definitions of emotions.  Being able to define emotions objectively by what they do, makes it easier to want to disassociate from the negative emotions! For instance it is much easier to say “I am angry!”, than it is to say, “I am feeling out of control in this situation.”

Definitions of Emotions

Compilation by Paul Solomon, Anne Helene Grøntoft & Ruthann Pippenger

Anger                    loss of control over others or self and the attempt to regain it.

Annoyance           see anger.

Anxiety                 incapacitating the self to avoid preparing for a situation.

Apathy                  see boredom.

Boredom              not taking responsibility for my own happiness or entertainment.

Confusion            refusal to deal with a situation or making a decision.

Contempt             see self-righteousness.

Depression           indulging in helplessness as a luxury (not taking responsibility for one emotion at a time, piling them up.)

Disappointment   see regret .

Disdain                 see self-righteousness.

Embarrassment    feeling that what or what I am is defined by what others think of me.

Fear                       entertaining a fantasy of a danger that has not happened.

Frustration           see anger.

Grief                     loss of control over a source of love or attention.

Guilt                     indulging in concern over a past situation in order to avoid taking action now.  Using the guilt as a “payment” instead of changing a negative pattern/becoming a person who wouldn’t do that act again.

Hate                      misplaced expression of love.

Home-sickness    loss of source of attention and a source of self-identity.

Hurt                      denial of responsibility for one’s own feelings or a feeling that another is not doing what I want                                     him/her to do.

Impatience           see anger.

Indifference         see boredom.

Indignation           see self-righteousness.

Irritation                              see anger.

Jealousy                              feeling of inadequacy to a known or unknown competitor.

Loneliness           placing the responsibility for my happiness on someone else.

Pride                     self-righteousness.

Rationalization    a technique for escaping emotion.

Rebellion             indulging in thinking of myself as inferior and helpless and putting negative thoughts and feelings on person(s) that I believe are in control of me; trying to make somebody else responsible for what I don’t want to do myself.

Regret                   feeling inferior because something didn’t go the way I wanted it to go.

Rejection             unsuccessful attempt to gain approval from another.

Remorse               see grief.

Resentment          see anger and hurt.

Sadness                 see regret.

Self-pity               indulging in helplessness as a luxury (substitute for self-love).

Self-righteousness             feeling superior to another in order to feel good about myself.

Shyness                waiting for someone else to tell me I am OK.

Worry                   incapacitating the self to avoid preparing for a situation.

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