This encouraging writing by Virginia Satir transported me deeper into an appreciation for and a love of life. I grew up in a culture where you were told you were of value “when you can …”; when you do …”; “when you accomplish …”; not for just being.
This is Virginia’s declaration of self-esteem. She examined the concept of self-esteem in almost every session of every workshop she led. To the professionals in her advanced classes she often reiterated the fact that everyone needs to feel of value. She understood that so few people authentically feel of value.
You’ll find references for the complete text of “My Declaration of Self Esteem” below. I’m including just part of that declaration here:
“In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it. I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions… I own all my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes—because I own all of me. I can become intimately acquainted with me.
By so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. …
I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.
I am me and I am all right!”
So, I have been engineering and re-engineering myself for several decades. It is exciting to uncover layers of consciousness that were hidden before and to learn to cut more facets of the personal gem of my personality. As my Super-Aging continues I expect to discover more and more about myself and be able to express portions of myself not yet discovered.
I wish you happy engineering!
Here is “My Declaration of Self-Esteem” by Virginia Satir in its entirety:
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