Oops, a day late—
Here is another quotation from Gibran that has been on my heart and mind through decades of contemplating my own relationships and as a family/couple therapist.
“Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” ― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet
The image of a couple in a relationship standing like pillars I find daunting and beautiful. Most of the couples that I know who have achieved this did this after several years or decades of marriage. The opposite image of two pillars broken and leaning against each other in a decrepit state is heartbreaking to me.
And at the moment I am adjusting to my daughter and I being pillars who stand together and not too near each other.
I believe we each need to ask: Am I leaning in too far or standing in my strength?
May we flourish in our strength and not be hidden in anyone’s shadow.