Worry is not caring. So many of us were raised with the idea that if we love someone we should worry about them. The erroneous belief is that worry is a positive character trait of “real love”. It’s not “real love”. It is “plastic love” It is not motivating. I believe that in fact worry is usually debilitating for the worrier and the worried for.
Real concern is constructive and positive, helpful and loving.
Giving up worrying for myself and others was one of the best actions I ever chose myself.